One of the worse feelings a person can get, next to abandonment, is rejection. All of us have experienced this in one way or another. It has affected the way we perceive ourselves, including how we take on life challenges. However, there’s something we should all know.
When people reject us, it is not because of who we are or what we have said or done. It is because we did not fit in with someone’s expectations. That is just it. Remember that. Besides, whatever version of you exists in other people’s mind is not your doing. It is theirs.
Last July 16, I had my very first whole day of in-person workshop facilitation after two & a half years of doing it online. Interestingly, it was with the very first ministry I love to do, Channels of Hope! I did not realize how much I missed doing it live! Channels of Hope is a workshop on HIV & AIDS that equips people to respond to the pandemic in a Christ-like way.
While nothing beats doing it in person, I’m uncertain if I’m ready to let go yet the comfort of online teaching. Soli Deo Gloria!
John says, “Then you will know the truth, & the truth will set you free” (8: 32, NIV). Being true to yourself & to everyone, being vulnerable & open with less fear, and living the life God has called you for is the truth that sets you to live truly free. That is true freedom. Also, being free is simply the real you!
To stay truly alive, we need to choose courage over comfort. So that we keep growing, climbing, and challenging ourselves. It is the way of life, and we need to accept this fact. It includes dealing with and living with our struggles.
That’s why I am thankful for my struggle because, without it, I wouldn’t have stumbled across my strength. Surely not my words but a quote from Alex Elle. He is right. So when life puts me in tough situations, I don’t say “why me” but “try me.” You’ll understand why I said these words once you read my e-books. Have a great day to you! God bless.
Our emotions, struggles, and unfortunate circumstances in life do not define us, nor our professions and our possessions. The quote below is a way to remind us that. These things are all temporary, and something else will be on us another time. And that is a good thing to recognize.
Here are the following examples of how we identify ourselves with such things. And how should we say it correctly. I am a failure – It was a failure I am lonely – Loneliness is on me I am a doctor – Being a doctor is my profession I am rich – Richness is on me I am HIV positive – I have an HIV infection I am gay – I have an attraction to the same-sex
If that is the case, how do we identify ourselves? Well, as for me, my identity is in Christ Jesus. He gave His life for all of us. God is the one who created me. He’s my Father, and Christ is in me. Therefore, I am a ChristIAN. I Am Nothing without Him. And that is permanent.
“If the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, He who raised Christ Jesus from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit who dwells in you.”- Romans 8:11 The resurrection of Jesus Christ gives us the power to live the life the Lord has called us to live. Hence, let us continue to live by faith with so much hope.
Today, two years ago, my father took his own life. Only God knows why. Being able to help others through a profession God has called me to serve. And yet, failing to help my own father is the irony in this case that I haven’t fully grasped until now. So, yes. I guess it’s okay to feel sad even just for a day.
The photo above is the contact information of the counseling center I co-founded with friends and colleagues back in 2015. For us, helping others through counseling, psychotherapy, and psycho-educational workshops is more of a calling than a profession.
Seeing what you are hoping for, dreaming about, praying for your life, and then at the same time, realizing that it is kind of impossible to happen at present or perhaps in the near future. Because it is in conflict with how you feel and what your heart desires, which is a sad reality of who you are in your identity in God through Christ Jesus.
It is funny that this thought could easily make you feel down and lonely. And that the only thing you could do is ask, “Why Lord?” and then cry, sometimes. Then, soon after, you will realize to trust Him more. And that it is all up to Him. I guess this is how you carry the cross of same-sex attraction (SSA) and other related issues.
When you experienced rock bottom and survived, there are only a few things or almost nothing in life that can scare you. One quote said, “Rock bottom will teach you lessons that mountain tops never will.”
The words in the photo image above say it all. Sometimes you have to get knocked down to the lowest you could ever be to stand back taller than you ever were. Let my journey attest to this truth. You may click the link below and download your copy.